A Tale of Two Alphas
You know two guys, John and Eric.
John and Eric are both funny and popular and they get laid often, by hot women. They are both alpha. However, you notice several key differences between them.
Eric looks at you while you’re talking.
John focuses on something else while you’re talking. You’re not sure he’s even listening.
Eric tells a cool story and then listens when you relate one of your own.
John tells a cool story and when you relate your own, he cuts you off to tell another one of his own.
When you bring a girl around, Eric is friendly to her but sets you up to tell cool stories and talks you up.
When you bring a girl around, John tries to flirt with her and puts you down in front of her.
Eric laughs at your jokes.
John tries to step on your punchlines.
Eric teases his guy friends with good-natured ribbing.
John teases you about personal shit and things he knows you’re embarrassed about.
John likes to be the center of attention.
People like Eric to be the center of attention.
If you’re in a social group you don’t know, Eric will introduce you to people.
If you’re in a social group you don’t know, John will swap inside jokes and shared stories with them, forcing you out of the conversation.
When meeting a new guy, John’s default is to ignore and/or act dismissive towards him.
When meeting a new guy, Eric gives respect and finds a mutual connection or interest to talk about.
John interrupts you.
Eric waits until you’re done talking before delivering his own value.
If you tell Eric a secret, he keeps it.
If you tell John a secret, he’ll gossip it as soon as doing so will bring him value.
If you mention an accomplishment, Eric gives it the acknowledgement it deserves.
If you mention an accomplishment, John downplays it or one-ups it, especially if other people are around.
Eric is cool to everyone.
John is cool only to people who can do things for him.
Eric calls you by your name.
John gives you a nickname or pronounces your name in a way you hate.
Get the picture?
You should be an Eric, not a John.
John sees every guy as competition. John sees social status as a scarce resource, your gain is his loss.
Eric understands his high value is self-evident. He can rise up without bringing you down.
Do girls punish guys like John by withholding pussy? Not really.
Jerks, dicks, and sociopaths get laid. Girls end up loving guys like John.
However, the truth is guys like John can’t compete with guys like Eric on the level of general coolness, so they must cut down others to compete on the level of relative coolness.
John still gets laid because status is status is status to a girl, but YOUR primary goal should be to build your own value, not cut down others.
BUT, the game being what it is, AMOGing is an important tool in a man’s toolbox. It takes a wolf to catch a wolf, and it takes a John to defeat a John, but you must dole it out in measured doses, only to him. Be a dick to people who deserve it, not to others in general.
John and Eric are both based on guys I knew in real life. All the actions listed are things they actually did. I didn’t even change their names.