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Month: September, 2013

How to Create a Natural

Do you want kids?

Think about it, because if you do, you are facing a large obligation.

Protect, provide, teach, nurture.

Oh yeah, and also making sure your son can get laid.

The ability to get laid is important for a man’s well-being.  For many guys, this doesn’t come easy and they end up needing to learn game in their late teens or twenties.  Some never learn it at all.

Learned game from the internet has done many guys good, but most guys would have been saved a  lot of time and frustration if they just had good fathers who taught them the basics.

With the right guidance and circumstances, any kid can become a natural with women.

Here’s a quick guide:

Choose his mother carefully.  You are only half responsible for the genetic outcome of your child.  You want a thin, young, healthy wife to help assure a healthy child.  The mother should embrace the idea of wifely submission and a captain-first mate relationship in which she is not the captain.  This will be your son’s first relationship model and it should embed natural gender roles in his mind forever.  Also, look at the men in her family.  Is the thought that your son may turn out something like them palatable?

Stay married.  If you’re choosing to have kids in a legal system that is so comically slanted against fathers, your first task is maintaining access to your son so you can have the ability to influence him.  One hit from a judge’s gavel and your influence can be confined to every other weekend while the rest of the time he’s being indoctrinated by a bitter, overbearing single mother.  She’ll betaize him real quick.  Therefore, the first step to being a good father is to have tight game.

Being alpha is not enough.  There is the theory that alpha guys have strong alpha dads.  Sometimes this plays out, but an alpha is dominating.  Sometimes a strong alpha dominates his son.  The son grows up being submissive to a strong man’s orders and sees that as his place in the world.  This will chip away at a young son’s confidence, and turn him into a soft beta worker bee as an adult.  If a son fears his alpha father, he may become a mamma’s boy as he sees his mom as the “safe” person in the house.  A high powered alpha concentrated on his own rise in business or other manly pursuit may not take his son under his wing and teach him the proper skills.  The alpha father may also be a natural who possesses seduction skills, but is unable to verbalize and teach them.  An alpha father is a necessary but not sufficient condition for raising a natural son.  Some actual fathering is required.

Confidence, not tactics.  I’ve seen some guys joke they’ll be giving their son a copy of Mystery Method when he turns 14.  The heart is in the right place, but you’re better off focusing on natural confidence and a deep understanding of female nature instead.  Don’t teach him dork terminology like AMOGing and A3.  Remember, Mystery wasn’t a natural, he was just deconstructing the behavior of naturals.  If you do it right, your son will be the guy that Mystery was trying to emulate, not a guy emulating Mystery.

Develop his confidence over other men.  This is best done through sports and fighting.  Get him going with baseball and football, boxing or BJJ.  Keep him around the skill level where he can compete and win.  If he sucks at one sport, find another one where he flourishes.  Athletic skill is the single best predictor of high school popularity (and by proxy, high school pussy getting), so you are crippling your son’s future social status if you don’t get him going in sports. Don’t skip the trained fighting.  A man who is fully confident in his ability to punch another man in the face is a man who will not be intimidated by social interaction.  You should not fear the day your son has his first fight, you should embrace it.

Give him space.  This is actually so important that a kid whose father deserts him can end up pretty alpha as long as his resultant single mother is not overbearing.  Good parenting trumps absent parenting trumps overbearing parenting, when it comes to getting laid.  For me personally, my parents made it their mission in life to make sure I didn’t get laid.  Curfews, strict rules, constant supervision.  If you want your son to seize his destiny and finger some sluts before his 16th birthday, you’re gonna have to stop planning out every second of his day and let him outside of your vision a little bit.  Let him get in a little trouble while he’s still a minor.  If he does something society doesn’t approve of but you know helps him as a man (like getting in a fight or fucking his teacher), tell him to take the heat like a man but let him know you’re proud of him.

Encourage leadership and responsibility.  Let him lead the way for a bit while hiking.  Put him in charge of younger siblings or cousins every once in a while.  When he plays a sport, encourage him to go for team captain, quarterback, pitcher. When talks about future ambitions, encourage him to be a doctor, not a nurse; an owner, not a worker; a fire chief, not a firefighter.

Have him fight his own battles.  If he has problems with a “bully” at school, do not talk to the principal.  Do not talk to the teacher.  Do not talk to the bully’s parents.  Tell him he needs to stand up for himself.  Give him the physical and verbal tools to do so, but tell him he has to fight his own fight.

Discourage gossip.  Gossip is inherently feminine in nature.  If he tattletales, give him the punishment he was hoping  you’d give the person he’s tattling on.  A line must be toed here because he has to know that he can come to you if someone is doing something that could cause them harm, but its important he learn early in life not to be an officious gossipy fucknut.  Snitches get stitches.

Teach him skills.  Your son should have the following skills before his 17th birthday: fighting, grilling, shooting a gun, basic plumbing, driving stick shift, personal finance and budgeting, drilling, woodworking and home improvement, auto maintenance.  Fishing and hunting if you’re so inclined.  Any unique skills you have should be passed on to your son.  Inner game is great, but true self confidence is derived from mastery over one’s environment.  A man with useful skills is a self-confident man.

Keep him around girls.  This may be the most important part.  A little sister is optimal, but that’s not always controllable.  Whatever you do, keep him around girls his age.  Cousins, playmates, neighbors, whatever.

Have him approach girls.  When he’s cute and pre-pubescent, take him to a park or farmers market and have him approach smoking hot babes.  Give him cute stuff to say, he’ll have a 0% blowout rate.  Make it fun for him, not “daddy is making me talk to girls again”.  Use monetary incentives if necessary.

Give him a manly name.  A kid’s name tells you a lot about his parents.  If his name is Aidan or Ashton, his parents are liberal status whore pussies who love telling people their kids name just to hear them coo, and the dad is beta as fuck to allow his wife to use his child as a tool for status-whoring. Fuck that.  Tried and true masculine names look and sound masculine.  As a general rule, if the name didn’t exist in 1940 it is a pussy name destined to get your kid wedgies and involutary celibacy.  The following is a quicklist of acceptable names for a son:  Jack, Nick, Tom, George, Edward, James, Gary, Roger, Russell, Michael, Sam, etc. This is a list mostly with White America in mind and it is not comprehensive, but you get the point.

Encourage him to be talkative.  Teach him storytelling and humor.  This should be shown by example as well.  Stay charming and let your natural personality rub off on him.

Give him cool experiences to talk about.  Boring people are boring because they don’t do cool things.  Set your son up with skills, sports, hobbies and vacations to talk about and he’ll develop into a good conversationalist.

Drop in bits of knowledge when convenient.
Scene: I’m with my girlfriend and her 9 year old cousin.

“Trevor give me a hug!” she commands.  He goes to do it.

“No, no, wait Trevor.  Before you hug her make her say three nice things about you.” I say

He smiles and looks at her.  She says “Trevor is cute.  Trevor is smart.  Trevor has a great smile”.

“Okay”, I say, “now you can hug her.”  He hugs her.

“She appreciates that hug a lot more now that you made her work for it”, I say, “That’s how you have to treat girls”

My girlfriend fakes outrage and playfully punches me on the arm.

“When a girl hits you like that, she likes you” I tell him.

When he’s the right age, lay it all out.  I guess this is known as “the talk”.  Most dads suck at it, some of our dads left it to our mothers to do (big mistake).  As a father, you have to give the talk, and give it right.  Lay out everything about female nature, what they really want and what he should do about it.  Once again, you’re not teaching tactics.  The words “kino” and “false time constraint” shouldn’t leave your lips.  You’re telling him chicks dig power and they like sex and being lead by a strong man makes them horny and he should go for what he wants.  More likely, this is a series of talks.  Buy him condoms and tell him never to jizz inside a girl unless he wants to get her pregnant, no matter what she says about birth control.

Encourage health, fitness and nutrition.  Fat kids = child abuse.  Growing kids need lots of calories, but lots of HEALTHY calories.  His diet is high in protein and low in sugar/simple carbs.  He drinks lots of milk during critical years to get taller.  He should view exercise as good and healthy and an important part of being a man.  He should know being fat is bad, fat people are subhuman and fat chicks are below his and your standard.  He derives self-esteem from keeping himself looking and feeling good.  Lead by example in this area.

Ease back on the “do what your mother tells you” rhetoric.  A mother is an important nurturing and support figure to a growing child.  However, unconditional subservience to a woman is not good for a boy after the age of 10 or so.  When very young, he should obey her unconditionally for his own safety, but with puberty looming, he should respect her and obey her most of the time, but he and she both must know that you overrule her on the most important matters.

Get a dog. A dog teaches kids how to love and how to be in charge of something they love.  The parallels between dog training and game are staggering.  Maybe I’m biased here because I’ve had amazing dogs my whole life.

Don’t let electronics babysit him.  Kids who spend all their time on TV and video games and computers end up boring adults who spend all their time on TV and video games and computers.  Instill an anti-porn, anti-fap mindset in favor of a pro-going outside, pro-chasing pussy mindset, and anti-video game mindset in favor of a pro-going outside and getting dirty mindset.

Toss him a guitar.  Most rockstars get started early.  If your son has some musical aptitude, it would be nice to have the option to hone it early.  Even if he’s not the next Slash, simply holding a guitar gets you laid.

Set up some dominoes for him to topple.  This is fun.  Buy a small piece of bar so he can easily be a bartender when he’s 18.  Befriend families in the neighborhood who have hot daughters so he can have an in to fuck them.  Get him a car.  Get status enough in your profession that you can get him a job through networking or nepotism.  Be a regular at a bar or strip club and pass the status on to him.  Give him some space on vacations so he can game in a new environment.

Dose him with red pill politics.  Liberals are bed-wetting pussies.  Don’t let your son be a bed-wetting pussy.  You must play defense against the liberal feminist school system that will indoctrinate him with bullshit and try to undo all of your hard work raising a man.

Make him aware of your sacrifice.  As a guy with game, you will likely be passing up lots of pussy and fun times if you choose to have kids.  Make him aware of this.  He should realize his existence is a gift from you.  This will make him respect you more, and a child who respects his father has higher self-worth because he instinctively understands that his father is his genes.

Instill genetic pride.  Pride in one’s bloodline and where one comes from is pride in oneself.

Don’t overdo it on the sex stuff.  Don’t be the ex-high school athlete trying to live out his dreams of sports glory through his son.  Just because getting pussy was hard for you doesn’t mean your son has to make up for your lacking.  Girls should only be a small but significant portion of your conversations with your son.  You want to assist your son in getting laid, but don’t be the dad forcing an interest on his son if its not there.  If you succeed in creating a natural, he’ll likely not view sex as that big of a deal, so your obsession with pushing him to get laid will strike him as weird.

Understand the ability to get laid anytime is just one ingredient in a man.  He must also learn to provide for himself, protect himself and his loved ones, find his mission, and manage and build on the fortune you pass down to him.

The Quickest Way To Reveal True Character

Drama.

The word likely hits the part of your brain that says “negative” and “bad”.

Most people go through life avoiding drama and conflict.

Fuck that. I love drama.

Modern lexicon has sarcastically termed shallow emotional “why didn’t you answer your phone” girl bullshit as “drama”.  That shit should be avoided and is not what I am talking about.

I’m talking about blood rushing, heart racing, palms sweating drama.

I’m talking about moments that make you fear for your life, livelihood, family and property.

Okay, I don’t go searching for it.  But it is important.

Drama reveals who you are deep inside.
Drama reveals loyalties.
Drama reveals who you can trust.

Drama reveals truth.

Let’s talk for a moment about relationships.

Male friendships are built on common interests, respect, and time spent together.  But those things are phony superficialities until you know how a man acts in the time of a crisis.  The seemingly closest male friendship can become the deepest hate-filled rivalry in a single moment of betrayal or weakness.  Any guy who has been in a bar fight or intense argument that needed backing up can attest to this.

Male-female relationships are built on attraction, value and good emotions.  But the deepest passion and emotional connection cannot be forged until you go through a conflict together, a crisis, a gut check that strips you both down to raw emotionality and makes you acknowledge that only deep love can make you feel so intensely.

In a time of crisis your true colors are shown in blazing glory or dramatic failure.  These true colors become attached to your identity and that identity is embedded in any witnesses brain.  To them, how you act in a crisis is who you truly are.  Your actions in times of heart thumping drama can’t be rationalized or explained away later in calmer times.  Juries can be fooled, witnesses can’t.

This is one basis for the “shit test”.  Girls need to find a man’s true character in order to see if she’s attracted to him or not.  One way to do this is to bring him a little conflict and see how he responds.

But that’s well documented.

I’ll let you in on a little secret: guys shit test guys all the time.

You don’t think so?

Well one of the basic qualities of male friendships is the ability to take a joke and toss one back.  It is also one of the best friendship filtering mechanisms.

If a guy takes friendly jokes or pranks at his expense too easily and doesn’t toss one back, he quickly becomes the whipping boy of the group.  He is the designated butt of the joke who is not counted on, called or thought of when shit hits the fan.

If a guy takes offense to friendly teasing, overreacts or ups the ante to personal insults and confrontation, nobody wants to be his friend as he is both unpleasant and a liability to go off the handle at future times of crisis.

Just like girls shit testing romantic prospects is natural and unconscious, so is guys teasing their friends.

It is a normal and necessary way to determine the value of an ally you may depend on for survival or livelihood one day.

Personally, I really like to know a guy’s threshold for anger.  I never intentionally piss someone off, but if he gets pissed off through some other organic means I am pleased.  I don’t know that I fully trust a guy until I see what gets him angry.  If he’s too quick on the trigger, he is a clown.  Irrational anger is funny.  However, if he’s too reserved, if I think there’s nothing that could make him clench his fists in fury, I’m skeptical of his ability to make his way in the world.

As far as girls, anyone who is experienced in relationships knows the importance of the First Big Fight.

Usually within 6 months, there is a make or break fight.

It starts when somebody’s loyalty or committment is questioned.  Somebody disrespects the other in some way.

Until that fight happens you know nothing about your partner.

In the fallout of emotional firepower, you begin telling each other what you truly think of each other.  It goes beyond the fight’s trigger as you start spilling all the little things you dislike about each other and all the minor gripes that weren’t previously brought up are shown the light of day.  The girl starts confessing little things about herself that might meet the man with displeasure.  She figures now is the time to get it all out and test his true devotion to her.

This big fight will either intensify the flames of passion of the relationship or extinguish them completely.

It is only after that fight that the relationship truly begins.

The woman needs to see strength and devotion to principles, but also passion and love from her man in this time.  A man needs to see honest emotion and eventual submission from his woman during this fight.

Once both parties are satisfied, the sex is electric.

Is this big fight avoidable if the two parties have a civil respectful relationship and don’t allow little things to get pent up?  Maybe.  But highly unlikely among humans.

Just like you don’t know a guy’s true character until you’ve seen him get checked, you don’t really know a girl until you’ve fought with her.

Character is always bubbling below the surface, to be revealed by the inevitable drama of life.

Sometimes the drama is small and inconsequential, but the character of a man is remarkably consistent.

The guy who succumbs to approach anxiety is the same guy who will flee and desert his buddies in a bar fight, or get stiff with nervousness and miss the game-winning free throws, or fake a sickness when his platoon is called to storm the beach of Normandy.

So who are you?

Do what gets your heart racing and find out.

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The Walls of Facebook

Brought to you by valued commenter deti :

We deride Facebook and social media around here. But to me one of its most useful features is to see current photos and video of the girls who you used to know and compare them to your memories and past photos of those same girls.

The differences can be breathtaking. You literally see a photo progression of these girls colliding in slow motion with The Wall.

First of all, fuck Facebook.  Delete it.

But deti brings up an important point (also brought to our attention by Heartiste).  Facebook is an excellent depedestalization tool.

A quick browsing through the old photographs of your female facebook friends will make reality impossible to deny: the wall spares no girl.

However, make no mistake, this isn’t just high school reunion shit.  I’m not talking about looking at a 35 year old girl, then taking a look at how she looked in college. No, that goes without saying.

Rather, I’m going somewhere even red-pillers don’t like to touch on.  Back when I still had Facebook, I was routinely shocked at HOW MUCH hotter girls, even in their early to mid twenties, used to be just a few years earlier.

In fact, Facebook shows that when women peak is even younger than anyone blogging under their real name would care to admit.  Common red pill dogma states that women are their hottest between 18-24.

I say this is bullshit.  Try 15-19.

Even that is generous for modern girls in prosperous countries.  If she’s going to college to binge drink on weekends and swipe her mealplan card at the buffet line, her peak likely ceases her first semester at around age 18.

True female peak, on average, is probably around 16-18.

High schoolers.

Tough to admit, isn’t it?

Now, we in the red pill community try to stretch that peak to 23 or 24 because most guys don’t have the chance to bang high school girls.  There’s the law, different social circles, cock-blocking parents, etc.  So we lie to ourselves a bit and claim the 22, 23 year old girls we date are still at peak.  Close enough for government work.

However, take a look at a girl’s facebook profile, and you see the truth.

Of course, this is an imperfect tool.  I’ve noticed girls take one of two strategic routes to prevent the devastatingly obvious wall-progression to judging onlookers:

(1) Deleting all visual evidence of youthful nubility from her profile

or

(2) Only allowing careful angled or instagram-filtered pictures to see the light of day

(Girls deleting all evidence of past sluttery and partying once they have a committed boyfriend is another fun phenomenom, but thats a conversation for another time.)

Anyways, the lesson as usual is : Delete Facebook.

 

***On a side note, I want to say I’m proud of my commenters.  Not a single Pointy Elbows Syndrome comment about the girl I described as a “10” on yesterday’s post.  Well done.  There’s hope for you yet.

Just Another Brick In The Wall

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Look at that girl.  Hot, right?

She’s a 10.

You know what else, though?

One day, she is going to hit the wall.

One day, she will be so haggard and ugly that you wouldn’t even look at her if she stepped in the same elevator as you.

One day, she will be so wrinkled and mangy that the thought of fucking her will give you a de-rection.

One day, no man who is not the father of her child or related to her will give a shit about her.

One day, nobody will rack their brain for something to say to her.  Nobody’s heart will start racing at the mere sight of her.

One day, nobody will want to look at a picture of her.

One day, if she would dress in that same lingerie and show you that exact same pose, your reaction would be pure disgust.

Still afraid to approach her?

The wall is cruel in that it robs beauty from the world.  The wall is also necessary in that it helps force a woman to be modest or accept foul consequences.

Let’s take a look at the sexual market options of an extremely hot woman as she runs through life.

Today, at age 20, she is a 10.  Every man wants her.  Every woman wants to be her.  She attracts cads, dad material, and even the rare holy grail of guys who could be cads but want to be dads.  Agencies pay her for her photograph.  Men approach her often.  People buy her things and give her stuff for free.  No door is closed to her.

At 25, she is a 9.  She is still jerkoff material for horny betas browsing her facebook page.  The beta unattractive men still worship her.  Cads will still gladly take her for a romp.  She gets approached maybe slightly more now, the guys who were too nervous to approach her when she was a 10 are now trying to talk to her.  Though approaches have gone up, quality of man has gone slightly down. The attractive cad and dad combo suitors are still around but less enthusiastic, and she notices the really really hot men she craves have their eyes set on slightly younger women.

Five years pass, she is now 30.  She’s now an 8 maximum, probably less.  The modeling agency hasn’t called in four years.  The ever present beta dads still worship her.  There are far fewer cads chasing her and they are less tolerant of resistance and time before sex.  If she doesn’t put out after the second date, she never hears from guys again.  If she does put out before the second date, she still doesn’t hear from guys again.  She is just a notch.  Those sexy yet safe cad/dad combos are all swept off the market by smarter women.  Men in her preferred age range who would consider her for serious relationships are either nauseatingly beta, or have baggage, emotional or otherwise.  Rarely do men approach her on the street.

Another five years.  She is now 35.  At the very best, she is a 7.  She is never approached on the street anymore.  Even the beta dad guys seem to have baggage now.  The disney prince type admirable men are vanished from her dating sphere.  Even cad attention is dwindling.

Five christmases tick off the calendar and she hits 40.  The absolute best she can be is a 6 (and thats god damn generous).  She signs up for online dating and sees young up and coming cads in their early 20s want to use her for a quick secret confidence building fuck.   Caddish guys nearer her age will hit it, but they tolerate zero resistance or bullshit before sex.  Only very sexless vanilla guys who do not stimulate her emotions at all will take her on a second date.

Our girl hits 45.  Cads don’t want her anymore.  Cats don’t either, but she has them anyway.

The lesson for women is leverage your fucking youth and beauty for all its worth while you have them.  I don’t mean for money.  I don’t mean for sex.  I mean leverage them into something long-lasting and worthwhile.  Twenty year-old Sarah’s choices have far-reaching consequences for fifty-year old Sarah’s quality of life.

No matter how much money or great sex your looks get you while you are 20, it won’t make people give a shit about you when you are 50.

The happiest women are the ones who used the bait of youthful beauty to settle down with a good husband who wanted a family.  At 55 do you want kids and grandkids and stability or a match.com account?

Know that you are a depreciating asset to men in general.  As your value to all men decreases, you must build your value to one well-chosen man by proving trustworthy over and over, being a source of feminine support, and being a producer and care-giver to his genetic spawn.

The lesson for men: Take a look at that gorgeous girl.  She is a walking expiration date.  Her power in this world is fleeting.  She is the temporary head coach knowing he’s getting replaced at the end of the season.

Do not see her as a 20 year old hottie.

See her as a person.

This is just a snapshot of her life, and she will change drastically.

Her beauty will fade.

What else she got?

Why You Should Jack Off

I believe abstaining from masturbating has benefits.  I’ve had extended periods of not masturbating due to getting laid regularly and no-fap trials.  I generally view it positively.

However, I also believe in this:

I’ll jack off before I’ll fail a jumbotron test due to unbridled horniness.

I’ll jack off before I’ll ruin my reputation or self-esteem by banging a girl below my usual standards.

I’ll jack off if my brain becomes dominated by sex thoughts at the expense of productivity.

The No Fap Movement is probably correct that refraining from indulging in self-love has physiological benefits.  By no means should you be a wanker.

However, know thyself.  If you know your unchecked sex drive may lead you down a path you may not be proud of, don’t be afraid to dirty a sock.

Jails, divorce courts, unemployment lines, and solitary apartments are littered with men who failed to heed to following advice:

Jack off before you do anything you’ll regret.

You Only Fuck Sluts

Commenter Just Sayin gives a common male perspective:

The problem with low N-count women is they value themselves and set a high-price on accessing their “goods”. Me? I like the slut! Plus they are more likely to want to raw-dog it, just like I like it. Sure she’s dirty, and used as much as a porta-potty, but that’s fine – just like a porta-potty, she’s a receptical that meets a need when I need it. The ones with a low N-count want to get married – that’s too high of a price for me, the ones that have been around the block a couple of times on their back, are the ones I like. They will do anything, and that is wonderful. Plus they know the score – I’m not going to marry them, I’m going to f**k them, then flip them over and use a new hole, and do it again till I’m christened every orifice she has at least once as a way of introducing myself.

You just have to get them young – by the time they are mid-20′s they look like they are mid-40′s and who wants to stick it in an old hag? Low N?? Nah… I’ll take that sweet little teen that just discovered sex and wants to flat-back her way through college… :)

I ain’t mad at cha.

I get it.

If there’s free sex floating around, why not get yours and enjoy the decline?

Take note, however:  While the argument “game only works on sluts” is obviously game-denialist bullshit, “you only fuck sluts” could very well be a valid criticism of a guy.

Some guys like Just Sayin have no problem with that and own it.  More power to them.  What a man sticks his dick into is not my business.

What I have a problem with is those who will not admit that virtue has value.

This is a typical feminist point of view, and such a thing is expected of them, so I ‘aint mad at them either.

I do, however, take exception to supposed red-pill players taking this stance.

When confronted with the fact that maybe the girls he’s fucking are sluts, this player says

“So what, all girls are sluts!  Your princess girlfriend probably takes anal in club bathrooms behind your back! All girls are sluts!”

Players are experts at reframing, so he reframes the arguments away from the quality of girls he’s fucking, and instead argues about the virtue of girls as a whole.  Tyler Durden of RSD is the most outspoken proponent of this viewpoint.

If these players were forced to admit there was differences in sluttiness and virtue, they might have to admit virtue has value.
Then they might have to evaluate the slut status of the girls they fuck, and they probably wouldn’t be happy with the result.

For a guy who places a lot of ego in his ability to fuck women, admitting to himself that his girls are lower quality is a huge hit.

Its much easier to spout off self-soothing bullshit.

Every once in a while you might get a guy to admit some girls can have higher virtue than others, so he will say:

“Okay, you can keep your frigid girls with disney fair tale views on sex lol!  I want girls who do anal and threesomes you can keep your unicorn virgin who only does missonary!”

As I said, players are experts at reframing.

Virtuous girls are reframed as undesirable, ice cold in bed.

This is, of course, bullshit.

Girls quickly catch on to sex, after a few sessions any sexual skill a girl lacks is simply your own deficiency in teaching and expressing what you want.

A virgin may take a few weeks, but if a girl is beautiful and sweet and pleasing to be around, this is no problem.

Look, its alright to fuck sluts.  Some of them are hot, and they know how to do that twisty thing with their hand while they are giving a blow job.  They give it up fast and easy, and some guys don’t have time to wait.

I get it, I really do.

I just ask that when you’re eating strip steak from the supermarket, don’t tell me my $50 Filet Mignon is no different just because it came from the same animal.

The Rock Solid Law of Night Game

An emailer comes to the throne for advice:

I am writing to you today to get some tips on night game, i.e bars/clubs/pubs etc at night. I am a 20 yr old guy who is just getting into game, and I can open girls here and there during the day and keep up a conversation, but at night I just dont have the balls to do anything, i dont know what to open with and even worse what to talk about.
 
I am not a shit looking guy either, I have girls checking me out every time I go to the club, but I just cant open or talk to them. Last night (Friday) was literally so terrible I came home and was frustrated to the fullest.

First things first, I don’t claim any specific expertise on night game.  Game is universal, of course, but for specific club/night game tips I would defer to guys like Christian McQueen or JT Styles (I think he still does night game coaching).

However, I can offer you the Rock Solid Law of Night Game.

LaidNYC’s Rock Solid Law of Night Game:

Have Fun

Everything flows from that most basic principle.

See, you need to shift your mindset.  The metric of a successful night is not whether or not you get pussy or female interest, or how many approaches you did, it is whether or not you have fun with your friends.

Here’s the thing:

Most guys don’t have fun when they go out.
Most guys don’t have fun friends.
Most guys don’t go places they like.

Most guys slug some beers, complain about the loud music, get nervous in front of girls, talk about stupid shit with their guy friends, and go home without approaching a cute girl.

Most guys, generally, have a shitty time when they go out.  They get drunk and lose sleep and have nothing to show for it but a bruised ego.

Stop that.

Do this instead:
-Go out with friends you actually like and have fun with, regardless of if they “have game” or not.  The best wingman is someone you genuinely have fun with who has never heard of Mystery Method.
-Make a few female friends and go out with them, too.  Joke with them and don’t even try to fuck them.   Open sets with them.  Wing for them with guys they like.  Girls, those evil hypergamous sluts, can actually be fun to drink with.
-Go to places you like.  Don’t be a bar hopping maniac, identify a few places you really like, and make friends with the bouncers/ staff by being a regular and solid guy.  Befriend the bartenders, not because they’re “hired guns”, but because bartenders are fun to joke around with and talk to.  Patience, young grasshopper, you will be VIP in no time.

As far as approaching:  Stop seeing talking to a new girl in the binary terms of success/failure and start seeing it in terms of fun/not fun.  Always try for fun.

That’s the thing: Talking to cute girls and new people is fun.

I’ll repeat that:  Talking to cute girls is fun.

Blowoffs are fun, too.  Seriously.  The bitchier the better.  Hit me with your best shot so I can laugh about it later.  Your cuntiness is actually powerless and adorable.

As far as what to talk about or what to open with, I refuse to offer any specifics, I can tell you only this:

Fuck scripted game.

Talk about whatever you want to talk about, whatever interests you.  Open with whatever the fuck you think is the most fun thing for you.  What cool thing did you do that day or that week?  What about her or her outfit is fun or noteworthy? Yes a lot of what you end up saying may not be technically the best seduction and to that I say:

I don’t give a flying fuck.

If you have nothing interesting to talk about and can’t talk to people in a way that is fun, all the Rooshes and Mysterys and Krausers in the world cannot teach you how to get laid because you suck as a person.

I’m not saying “be yourself”, because you probably currently suck.  I’m saying be more fun and interesting.

Don’t worry, most people can be fun, they just aren’t giving themselves permission.

Here’s a tip:  Be fucking selfish in conversation, especially at clubs and bars.  If people are talking about something you find boring or know nothing about, steer the conversation back to where you want it, or go find someone else to talk to.  Girls at night are ADD-addled, look-at-me, shiny object seekers and if you don’t interact on your own terms you are destined to bend to her reality.

I’ll tell you what, if you are a more serious, logical person and you don’t enjoy going out for the sole purpose of having fun, then I’ll tell you that is nothing to be ashamed of.  Stick with day game, lounges and art galleries, online game, and meeting women through the status you acquire during the day.  Play on your terms, always.  If the club really isn’t your playing field, stay out of it.

Will putting fun above pussy lose you some pussy?  I don’t know.  Maybe.

The point is that “night game” shouldn’t be about pussy at all.

Nothing you do should be just for the pussy.

Man on a Mission

*Alright, feminists, playtime is over for now.  This blog will now return to its regularly scheduled programming.*

The most attractive thing to women is a man on a mission.

How does a man act when he’s on a mission?

A man on a mission cares not for any girl’s reaction to him.  He cares for his mission.  Sure, he may want sexual release, but he feels no approach anxiety.  To a man focused on a higher mission, approaching girls is like playing with little kids in a sandbox: cute, but ultimately meaningless.

A man on a mission naturally treats women with the aloof alpha attitude and dominant frame that PUAs try to imitate.  Picture a guy spending all day striving, sweating and bleeding for a mission, going home with his struggle still on his mind.  A girl flakes or gives him some drama, does he even care?

A man on a mission pursues sex and escalates boldly because he doesn’t have time to waste.  He does not have months to spend, he does not have time to buy seven dinners before a chance at sex.  He has shit to do.  Its fuck or walk, your choice.

A man on a mission worships no girl.  He puts his mission on a pedestal, not his girl.

A man on a mission is impossible to friendzone.  He simply doesn’t have time to listen to a girl’s emotional outpourings.

A man on a mission treats girls with abundance.  There are many girls, but only one mission.

A man on a mission has ambition, passion and drive.  Anybody who spends time with him can sense this.

A man on a mission is never at a loss for words.  He has stories.  I was (working on my mission) when…., My friend ______(who I know from my mission) and I……,

A man on a mission has boundaries.  He will not let a girl take up too much of his time or do anything that will jeopardize his mission.

A man on a mission chooses a wife or long term girlfriend carefully.  She must complement him and make his home life easier, as he is out living his mission.

A man on a mission does not check his phone every minute to see if that girl from the weekend texted him back.  He works on his mission, noticing only when he takes a break that she texted him hours ago.

A man on a mission cannot be rejected by a girl because he derives his self-esteem from how well he is pursuing his mission, not from the actions of anybody else.

A man on a mission finds status, wealth, and fame awaiting for him when he succeeds.  This was not his primary motivator but it attracts women nonetheless.

To a guy who can’t get laid, shitty game is a symptom, not the disease.  The root cause of all neediness, pedestalization, social anxiety, unworthiness, and lack of confidence is not having a mission.

Next time you have a girl problem, ask yourself:

Don’t I have something better to do?

Feminists Had Shitty Mothers

As you saw, the comment section got overrun with empty skirts last week.

Most of them trotted out the old feminist memes which are easily debunked but I noticed something popping up with more frequency:  Comments about my relationship with my mother.  To the effect of “oh, you’re probably fantasizing about your mother when you have sex with these girls who iron your shirt” or “your mother clearly didn’t hug you enough and she probably hates you”, stuff like that.

Just generally weird, out of place stuff.

One could easily write it off as more feminist hack cliche, but I think there’s a deeper meaning.  The comments were so obviously out of place that they became a tell into reading the feminist’s soul.

Since most of what feminists write is pure projection, (i.e. you’re insecure), I think this is no different as well:  Feminists had shitty mothers and they think about it all the time.

I had such a good, uneventful relationship with my mom that I hardly ever think about it, and because of that I never even consider other people’s relationships with their mothers as a possible sore spot.  I’ve noticed most of the people in my life who have similar views as me also had great home lives growing up:  Strong father, normal mother.

It is the feminists who are most likely to be children of divorce, most likely to have a bitchy mother who didn’t hug them enough, most likely to have a dad who abandoned or neglected them, and this is a major source of their hatred for anyone has who normal views on family and gender.  It didn’t work out for them, why should it get to work out for anyone else?

So to the feminists out there, your homework for today is to hug your mother and have a good cry.  You need it.

I Hit It First: Why A Girl’s Sexual Past Matters

A girl’s sexual past matters.

You will hear otherwise from delusional sluts who have been pumped and dumped yet are still hoping to attain commitment from a decent man, and from white knight feminist males who falsely believe that by agreeing with an irrational female perspective they might get an ounce of pussy thrown their way.  Even successful players rant against slut shaming to convince themselves they’re leaving girls better than they found them, and to rationalize their r-selected lifestyle as a heavenly ideal rather than embracing their role as bad boy anti-society hustlers, or to make sure the spigot of free pussy remains on tap because deep down they realize they’d get locked out of the sexual market in a more K-selected environment.

From these people you will hear that if you care about a girl’s past you are insecure, have jealousy issues, an inflated male ego, and a society-programmed madonna whore dichotomy.

Bullshit.

There are perfectly logical reasons why a rational, well-adjusted man would want his woman to have a clean sexual history.

1.) Girls with high N counts are fucking crazy.  With the biological threats of partner desertion, death by childbirth, and incurable STDs, having a high partner count had been a biologically impossibility for a woman until the 20th century.  As such, women are emotionally inequipped to handle all the emotional baggage that comes with getting their goods plundered by many pirate ships.  Consider we are the same humans today that we were in 1850, and in that time any girl with double digit sexual partners was almost certainly a poverty stricken prostitute.  Even if a girl does not have a very high N count, her sexual past still shows her general character and emotional stability.  Did she rebound failed relationships by fucking guys because she had to feel pretty and wanted? Did she seek out a lot of bad boys, older men, rich guys, etc.? Does she use guys for validation because she has a hole in her soul?  Is she fucking only boyfriends, or does she have a history of fucking cool guys who won’t commit to her?  These things matter.  Experienced players can vouch for the fact that craziness and sluttiness are highly correlated.

2.) For every sexual partner a girl has, her capacity to emotionally bond to her next sexual partner decreases.  The less sexual partners a girl has, the more deeply she can fall in love.  The intensity of her heart throbbing, her butterflies, and how much her lover’s touch feels like electricity on her skin are all negatively correlated to how sexually experienced she is. The slut cannot enjoy sex with the same emotional intensity as her more chaste counterpart. If you want to inspire deepest love and passion possible, you want a partner with a thin sexual history.

3.) Nobody wants to treat somebody else’s whore like a princess.  If a store is giving away free milk to every one else, and then tries to charge you full price, would you pay it?  Could you walk to your car after purchasing milk, and see all the people who got free milk smirking at you for being a sucker because they got the same enjoyment out of the same milk for free?  Simply put, a girl puts a price on her vagina, why outbid it?  You wouldn’t pay above sticker price for a new car, would you?

4.) Baggage.  The more partners a girl has, the more likely she is to have baggage, aka lingering feelings, past lovers coming out of nowhere to threaten your relationship, conflicting relationships in social circles you have to deal with, etc.  Its not a small amount of relationships that end due to issues like this.  Even if you think all the other reasons are bullshit, you ignore this one at your own peril.

5.) STD risk (obvious).

6.) Past behavior predicts future behavior.  It’s not a perfect predictor, but its the best indicator we have.  If a girl has fucked a lot of guys in the past, she’ll probably fuck a lot of guys in the future.  This means cheating risk, or the risk that she will end your relationship on a whim because she finds another guy she wants to fuck.  And it goes deeper.  Has she ever cheated on a past partner?  If so, you’ll get cheated on.  Does she accuse her exes of abusing her, but is sketchy on the details?  If so, she’ll be telling people you abused her when you break up.  Past sexual dalliances and relationship problems generally predict a future of the same.  If she wants you to stay with her until she’s old and riddled with osteoporosis, the least she can do is keep her legs shut when she’s young.

7.) Evolutionary embedded disgust.  It is not social conditioning that a man feels visceral disgust at the thought of his girls previous partners plowing her sweet nether regions.  In past times, the seal of virginity was the only paternity guarantee available.  A girl with multiple partners would give birth to a son of unknown fatherhood.  The men would commit less resources, if any, to the raising of her child.  Our biology demands that we treat girls who aren’t pure as pump and dumps.  That we now have DNA testing doesn’t change the fact that a man feels repulsion at the thought of committing time, emotions and resources to a slut, because it could have meant genetic death via false paternity.  The feeling is scientifically valid and cannot be invalidated by self-serving solipsism.

But DOUBLE STANDARD!!

Don’t these reasons apply to guys as well?  Sure, some of the above listed reasons do apply to guys, and a girl shopping for a long-term mate should be aware of these things.

For instance, a high N count guy is much more likely to have cynicism and an embrace of the player lifestyle that would lead him to be bad relationship material.  However, a woman’s attraction to a man is more complex than that man’s attraction to her.  An experienced man who other women desire sexually is more attractive to women, and men who are attractive to women usually fuck lots of them.  Most low N count guys don’t maintain low partner count because of some kind of golden halo of virtue, most the time its because he has no options with women to begin with.  (Of course, a guy who treats his seed like liquid gold and values monogamy can keep his partner count low while having a great sex life.)

Women want the desired man who chooses her over all his past and potential lovers.  Whether or not he fucked the other girls who desired him is irrelevant (though he usually does).  For fucks sake, just look at all chick flicks, romance novels and other inane girl fiction that has the classic “reformed player falls for girl” as its vagina tingling plotline.

Ladies, if you really want to kill this double standard, why don’t you find yourself a nice male virgin to date?


The lesson here?  Actions have consequences.

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