Girl Game

by laidnyc

In game blogs, it is often asserted that women can’t have game beyond some gold-digging exceptions.  I disagree.  The problem is guys who make that claim are looking at it through the lens of “guy goals” of money and sex.  Sure, there is little a girl can do in that regard besides find a sucker and be a hot slut.

However, girls are more concerned with getting a man to bond to her on a deep level and acquire his love.  For that, there are some things she can do.

Girls, Lets get two things out of the way first:

90% of your appeal to men is your looks.  If you don’t have the genes, this can suck but you have to do what you can: Stay thin, wear makeup, keep your hair long and dress to look good, not to assert your status to women.

Fear the wall.  Do everything you can to delay or lessen the blow of the wall through healthy living, but know it is coming.  Know that you will be gross and undesirable long before your male peers.  This is not fair.  This sucks.  But you must accept it.

But enough about your looks, you shallow, superficial woman!  What about your personality?

Act like the guys you aren’t attracted to.  For example, a guy who brings gifts to a woman before sex will surely not to get laid.  How about the other way around?  A girl once brought me a little keepsake on our second date.  “I got this for you”, she giggled.  It was a little painted figurine of something we had talked about on our first date.  Nothing special or valuable.  Yet I keep it in my “girl box” full of memories of girls past, like slips of paper with phone numbers, birthday cards, panties, etc.  I never slept with her (her choice), yet I still think about her sometimes.

Know how to compliment a man.  For every time you call a man nice, sweet, and sensitive, tell him ten times that he’s confident, a leader, funny, charming, handsome, manly, ambitious, and athletic.  Men instinctively know nice guys get cuckolded.  The first girl to ever reject him probably told him he was nice.  Being nice is bad.  Even if he is nice to you, that is not how he wants to be defined.  Show him you see him how he wants to be seen.

Leave cute notes for him to find.  My favorite thing a girl has ever done for me was leave a note in my underwear drawer that said “Roses are red, violets are blue, I like having sex with you <3″.  It doesn’t even have to be a sexual note.  A simple note reading “I did your dishes babe, *muah*” gets the job done just fine.  Girliness of handwriting counts.  Write in pink or purple ink/marker.  It is my educated opinion after years of dating that American girls need some serious work on their note-writing game.

To the guys:  Steal this tactic.  Girls I date now get lustful Post-it scribbles from me inside their panties and bras.

Girl up your voice.  High, feminine voices are heart-melting.  I have a voicemail from an old fling saved on my hard drive.  She wasn’t saying anything special, just calling to make plans, but her voice was so sweet and girly that I can still listen to it and enjoy her essence.  What if your voice isn’t high?  If you smoke, quit.  You sound like a gravely road. If you don’t smoke and your voice is not pure girl, consider some voice/singing lessons so you can better control it.

Let him do things for you, then show appreciation.  The key: Have him do masculine things, not emasculating things.  Ask if he’ll help check your oil or protect you from something.  Don’t ask him to hold your purse or run to the store for you.  He should feel like a protector filling masculine gender roles, not a servant doing a butler’s job.  When he does something for you, show genuine appreciation.  He’d prefer it be sexual in nature, but it doesn’t have to be.  A sincere thank you is bare minimum.

Men want to be men, give him the opportunity.

Present authentic emotion.  I once had the First Big Fight with a girl I had been dating for about four months.  When it became clear to her that she was wrong and I really was considering leaving her, she kneeled in front of me, tears streaming down her face like a faucet, begging me not to leave her.

I saw passion.  Deep emotional capacity.  Modesty.  Willingness to submit.  Real fear of losing me.  Until that moment, I really didn’t know I meant so much to her.  I didn’t leave her.  It brought us closer together.

Some might say “she manipulated you by crying”.  Nah.  A man with enough experience can tell the difference.  Not all tears are manipulative but there’s a reason women try to use manipulative tears:  Men respond to real tears.

The corollary of course:

Cut out the fake tears.  If you cry to manipulate and play the victim, you won’t respect the man who falls for it, and you will piss off the man who doesn’t.

Cook, clean, sew.  Fill the feminine void in a man’s life.  If he loses a button, you say I can fix that for you.  You always have a new recipe you want him to try.  You bake him and his friends chocolate chip cookies just because.  Your first reaction when you go to his place isn’t to plop on the couch, it is to clean the kitchen.

Be sunshine.  Brooding men are hot.  Brooding women look infertile.  Starting today, your default emotion is happiness.  Your default facial expression is a smile.  You treat people pleasantly and sweetly.  You do not make sarcastic jokes.  You laugh at other people’s jokes.  You giggle.  You don’t engage in serious or negative conversations.  You are a ray of sunshine and you do not care if people who are less happy judge you for being happy.

Earn trust.  There’s sexual trust, and there’s verbal trust.  You need to earn both.  For one, he needs to know you won’t sleep around on him.  One way to show this is by not sleeping with him too fast.  Men instinctively know that girls who spread their legs quickly for them spread their legs quickly for other men as well.  He also needs to know you won’t spill any secret he tells you in confidence.  This is, I believe, the rarest quality for a girl to have.  I’m not sure I’ve ever fully trusted a girl in this regard, not even my own mother.  If you are a trustworthy girl who does not gossip you are worth your weight in princess cut diamonds.

Avoid projection at all costs.  Women are attracted to leadership, humor, status and ambition in their men, so some girls falsely believe they can attract men by being ambitious and status-driven.  This does not work.  The feminine attracts the masculine.  To attract a man, do not act like a man.

I’m not just being hard on you here, girls.  Men are guilty of projection as well.  Beta males want girls to be devoted and emotional towards them, so they give out their emotions and devotion easily.  Men are very attracted to looks so we end up with chest-shaving metrosexuals.  Men are just as guilty of projection in this area as women.

A word on clinginess.  If a guy thinks you’re “clingy”, he’s just not that into you.  Remember Vince Vaughn in Wedding Crashers alerting of a “Stage 5 Virgin Clinger”?  This was a problem because he wanted to fuck her and leave her as soon as possible.  If your goal is to be fucked and chucked, then by all means present yourself as time-free pussy.  If not, cling a little.  Take some intiative in texting him.  Give a little PDA.  Show him you want to spend time with him.  I’m not saying become an obsessive stalker, but when a man is looking for a girlfriend, a little clinginess is much better than the alternative.  Players don’t want the emotional commitment that clinginess signals.  Boyfriend material does.  The hotter a guy thinks you are and the more he wants to keep you around, the less of a problem your clinginess is.

Go forth and girlify.